tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post6980023986085175586..comments2023-06-30T01:47:45.419-07:00Comments on ordinarymysteries: Lay down your weaponsDrkingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16798341627204705354noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-9651750331148698792012-06-12T02:49:24.896-07:002012-06-12T02:49:24.896-07:00Hello Daniel!
Thank you so much for sharing. Wha...Hello Daniel! <br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing. What you wrote is a revelation for me. Although I've been busy with Vipassana meditation several years and becoming aware of my feelings ... <br /><br />I also try to embrace my feelings, how heavy they sometimes weigh. <br />In the case of sexual attraction, I read your text as a woman. When I feel drawn to a man, I feel too much tension in my body. Almost the same symptoms as you feel. At the same time I feel guilty. When I allow myself to feel these feelings I am always scared that the particular man will notice and get ideas. It's like I seduced him. Then it's my 'fault' that he looses his head and that he wants more from me. Of course, I know it is his responsability to feel this way... but anyway...<br />I would love to feel those feelings for a man and perhaps even share with him, but without a physical result all the time. <br />Feeling can be so beautiful, but it is so difficult as a woman, without creating misunderstandings. Next time I experience this I will think about your text and feel the feeling all over, even the guilt feeling, the idea that I am not a 'good woman' feeling this way...<br /><br />NAMASTE<br />Marjolijn<br /><br />(Sorry for my bad English... my mother tongue is Dutch...)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02181311867937016077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-79384146280775072802012-04-25T06:25:55.363-07:002012-04-25T06:25:55.363-07:00This post so resonates with me Daniel, thank you:)...This post so resonates with me Daniel, thank you:) I came to it via the new Movement of Being newsletter, and was astonished to hear how closely it matched my recent experience. Through my working with Philip Jones, changing my mind about doing the passion for change retreat at the last minute, and choosing to work 1 on 1 instead, I came face to face with the experience of attraction as attack so I know just what you mean. I really got the 3 F s and how it is that they can feel so closely related and even began to doubt that which I had thought was attraction and wonder if it was fight! You are so right though, when we conduct it, as Colin explained to me, it becomes quite delicious and the three emotions move through just like the waves you describe in your beautiful poem.<br />I am really struck by how it is that so often we "get" things at the same time as others, and I love the sense of kinship between us all that I feel when that happens, real connection, how we are all interconnected.<br />Love how you are sharing on this blog, it is what I do too - on Creative Community Devon - nice to "meet" a kindred spirit :)stephhttp://creativedevon.ning.com/profile/stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-26696748381391082492012-04-03T15:20:13.478-07:002012-04-03T15:20:13.478-07:00Hey Paul,
I used the word "attack" simp...Hey Paul,<br /><br />I used the word "attack" simply because that's sort-of how it felt, ridiculous though it still sounds to my poor brain! (But I can understand how it may triggered an uncomfortable response). Delighted you enjoyed the post notwithstanding...<br /><br />And Morgan,<br /><br />I am really pleased that the post touched you in this way. It truly is my very great pleasure to share. DxDrkingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16798341627204705354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-56365178477508386402012-04-03T14:20:39.349-07:002012-04-03T14:20:39.349-07:00Thank you Daniel, I LOVE this post and really appr...Thank you Daniel, I LOVE this post and really appreciate your honesty. You express yourself so lucidly and beautifully. I can relate to so much of what you shared, including the specificity of dancefloor attractions - to me they have often elicited shame as I try not to show my feelings! So, I feel quite liberated by reading your post and look forward to trying this out. xMorganMoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01299697631266661062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-76499661639843399512012-04-02T06:51:22.257-07:002012-04-02T06:51:22.257-07:00Hey Daniel, thank you for putting your experience ...Hey Daniel, thank you for putting your experience into words that I could be touched by!<br />I loved the description of Conducting and, even more so, the description of what happened when you applied it with a dance partner. Inspiring.<br />My initial response to the word 'attack' was uncomfortable. I have, however, been overwhelmed by my feelings on many many occasions and the tendency to then go into one of the behaviours you describe is automatic.<br />The wave metaphor will, I hope, stay with me for a while!<br />Take care.<br />PaulPaul Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11354381216970392320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-60787317605392719942012-03-30T14:32:32.335-07:002012-03-30T14:32:32.335-07:00Hi Venita,
Yes I'm familiar with Peter Levene...Hi Venita,<br /><br />Yes I'm familiar with Peter Levene's work and have had quite a few SE sessions. <br /><br />What I'm talking about has some things in common with SE - though SE is usually used after the event to integrate trauma, and this is much more real-time and not necessarily involving emotions which are triggering to that point.<br /><br />And I'm delighted that the writing touched you so deeply. It really is my joy to share these insights with my friends and those I'm yet to meet. DxDrkingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16798341627204705354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-29464675974396146902012-03-30T04:28:25.372-07:002012-03-30T04:28:25.372-07:00Thank you for alerting the SP people to this blog ...Thank you for alerting the SP people to this blog by email. I didn't' see it earlier and just read it. Somehow I did see a previous one on relationship. Both leaving me more embodied. <br /><br />This all reminds me of Somatic Experiencing. Are you familiar with it? Your sparkle and truth is right in the room as I read. Thank you for this inspiration to be with. <br /><br />Also, reminds me of A.H.Almaas. I read him a lot. The most recent is the book The Unfolding Now ( subtitle is Realizing Your True Nature Through the Practice of Presence!). <br /><br />I'm noticing as I write here that I keep going into a place of having no words. I don't feel overwhelmed or spacey , I just have no words... i.e., no words will do and it's so delicious to just feel that. And then I TRY to say something about how I feel in response to your writing and I only want to sit. Nothing to do. Just be here. And, feel like I"m being here with you too.Venitahttp://www.venita.teamasea.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-15603869098512572482012-03-27T09:50:20.592-07:002012-03-27T09:50:20.592-07:00Wow! What a lovely first article to read on Presen...Wow! What a lovely first article to read on Presence first! It really struck a chord. I remember these awkward feelings from some years ago. A teacher i had got us to claim our own energy and feelings. This is particularly useful if you are currently in a realtionship and it happens with someone else. As you so beautifully put it, all we have to do is allow the feelings go through us and say yeah, this is my lovely juicy energy....I don't have to do anything with it, it's just energy. It can bring us alive and awake in our own bodies. In a way, we do this when we enter a room, we look around and if we are feeling alive and vibrant we resonate at a particular frequency.....we then search out others with that vibrancy, we then can bring more energy through just a verbal exchange, it is just pure alive vibrant energy. We all know what it is like when we are with people who seem to suck our energy. The more aware we are the better, creating alive vibrant beings. Thanks for sharing that...<br />Yeah...loved the poem too....ClaireAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432072969859750690.post-64949203722623893872012-03-25T18:36:04.593-07:002012-03-25T18:36:04.593-07:00Daniel!!! Thanks for sharing this! You have a way...Daniel!!! Thanks for sharing this! You have a way with words my dancing friend, I find your way of engaging with and expressing your insights both clear and inspirational. Yes I am one of those who uses conduction in the dance very often but I had never named it this way and hearing you express this has brought this truth more clearly into my awareness, I do sometimes fall into 'expressing' rather than simply conducting, especially in Anger. however I don't feel that 'Expression' necessarily always means that we are not allowing the feeling to move through at its own pace. How I percieve this process of feeling that you describe is that when we start by focusing on simply allowing feelings to be present then from that space the feelings naturally express themselves through the medium of the body and voice. This is authentic expression. The problem is when we don't want to feel the feelings and so instead of conducting them we go too quickly into expression as a way of trying to get rid of them but this is the same as repressing them just a different way of doing it. So there is healthy expression, an expression that arises out of presence without effort. And forced expression, a way we try to get rid of feelings. I observe something similar happening at the other end of this polarity around 'repression'. When one focuses ones attention on conducting and allowing then there will be certain frequencies of feeling that may raise their head above the surface of the unconscious and decide they are not ready to step into the light just yet, they then fade back into the unconscious body. This is healthy repression. Again If one is focused on repressing as a way of avoiding feeling then this is of course not entirely progressive. So to support your original insight, yes bringing more of our attention to the process of allowing feelings is progressive. To add, allowing natural repression and expression to be born of the conductor is also important to name. <br /><br />Bloody great poem aswell!! :)Anu Azraelhttp://www.anumovingsoul.comnoreply@blogger.com